Tuesday, July 30, 2013

Parenthood lesson #576: My children really are listening

Gideon is my oldest son.  He is one of the sweetest little boys I know; he's super affectionate, free with compliments ("You're beautiful today Mommy!" is my favorite), funny, smart as a whip, he hears everything and forgets nothing.  However, Gideon is also a perfectionist, high strung, strong-willed, and a little OCD.  He likes things ordered and organized, and when things fail to go the way he's planned, he has trouble adjusting, which usually results in minor and major meltdowns and turns my sweet Gideon into a giant bear.  We've tried many things to discourage this type of behavior, some successful and some not.  One of our solutions is to always compliment Gideon's good behavior.  We always try to praise him for the times when he handles disappointments without tears and fussing.  Often though, when we give him a compliment like "Thank you for being such a good boy today," he responds with "No I wasn't".  Gideon's attitude has been the most frustrating and difficult thing for me to deal with as a parent.  Its root goes straight to his heart, and I know we've got to take hold of it and mold it into a heart that desires to obey before it takes hold of him.  We often talk to Gideon about how his heart is like a garden, and he can let weeds (bad attitude) grow or flowers (good attitude) grow.  But often I wonder if anything I'm saying or doing is making a difference in him.  Is he hearing what I'm saying?  Am I doing anything to effectively reach him?  Will he ever stop throwing a temper tantrum every time I ask him to do something he doesn't want to do?

My sweet Gideon, loving on his baby brother

Then, on Saturday I took the boys by myself to a family get-together.  We stayed most of the afternoon, which means Gideon didn't get a nap in, and even at almost 5 years old, Gideon requires a nap most days or he is even more volatile than normal.  So, I was really dreading the moment when I had to say it was time to go.  I just knew that I would end up trying to get two boys and a baby down the street and into the car while dragging a kicking and screaming Gideon.  Yet, when I said it was time to go, he calmly got his shoes on, said goodbye, and walked out.  He got into the Excursion, buckled his seat belt, and didn't even whimper.  After everyone was loaded, and we were on our way, Gideon suddenly piped up, "Aren't you proud of me?"  I answered with a resounding, "YES!"  Not only was I so proud of him for not throwing a fit, but proud of him for being aware of his good behavior.  I was so proud of him for wanting to obey and please.  I was also almost moved to tears of thankfulness.  Finally! I had proof that we were in fact getting through to him.  Even when it seems that he is completely unmovable and unrelenting, even when I think I am in fact doing more harm than good, there is a part of my guidance that is slowly seeping through to his core.

My stubborn Gideon

So parents, I give you this encouragement:  Even when you think you're not getting through to your kids, you probably are.  Even when you think they're not listening to anything you're saying, they are hearing what you say.  Even when it seems that they will never understand, they will come around.  Parenting is a marathon, not a sprint, so don't give up, even when it seems you're accomplishing nothing.  It is trying, frustrating, and exhausting having children, but I wouldn't trade being Gideon's momma for the world, and I'm so thankful for the little glimpse God gave me of the person Gideon is becoming.  And I realize that as much as I'm trying to refine and mold my children, God is using them to mold me--a fact I take much comfort in during the times when Gideon is screaming at the top of his lungs in the grocery parking lot.  So thank you Father for letting us watch our children learn and grow.  Even when it is harrowing and daunting, it is still a privilege to call them mine.

Sunday, July 14, 2013

A lotion you can feel good about


Have you ever read the label on your store-bought lotion?  Here are some of the ingredients on a bottle I have here at home:  

Water, Dimethicone, Ceteareth-20, Diasolidinyl Urea, Methylparaben, Tetrasodium EDTA, Propylene Glycol
I don't know about you, but I only know what one of those ingredients is, so I did a little research.
Dimethicone is a form of silicone and has a variety of uses.  It is one of the ingredients of silly putty, different types of caulking, and McDonald's chicken nuggets.  It decreases foaming, is used in shampoos to help make hair shiny, and a form of it is used in the treatment of head lice.

Ceteareth-20 is another ingredient that helps to thicken lotions and stabilize emulsions.  But it can also alter your skin structure and increases the speed and ability of other ingredients to penetrate your skin and enter the bloodstream.  It is not recommended for damaged skin and is also restricted in skincare products.

Diazolidinyl Urea is an antimicrobial agent that slowly releases formaldehyde (Yikes!) in order to preserve lotions. It is found in almost all types of skincare products.

Methylparaben is a member of the paraben family and is another preservative.  Parabens do occur naturally, in the body and in certain plants, like blueberries, which is why they are generally considered safe in small amounts.  But because several types of parabens are often used in one product and parabens are used in virtually all skincare products, it is easy for our bodies to absorb way more than a normal amount. Parabens have been found in breast cancer tumors and have also been found to mimic estrogen and disrupt hormone function.

Tetrasodium EDTA is yet another preservative that breaks down the skin's protective barrier in order to enhance absorption.  

Propylene Glycol helps lower the melting point of water, so it is used in de-icing agents and antifreezes.  It is used in lotions and other skincare products as a humectant, which means it helps to attract and retain moisture to the skin.  It is also sometimes used as a preservative in foods and as a solvent in pharmaceuticals.

Water is, well, we all know what water is.  But, when water is added to a lotion, it automatically creates the need for a preservative, because water creates an environment perfect for bacteria growth.  It also is very drying.  If you've ever washed dishes several times a day in the winter and ended up with severely chapped hands, you realize just how drying it is.  And often, water is the first ingredient listed, meaning it is the most plentiful ingredient, meaning your lotion bottle you paid big bucks (or small bucks) for is really, mostly, just water.

While many lotions also include healthy, natural ingredients like Aloe Vera, Grape Seed Extract, and Glycerine, they also contain preservatives and other artificial ingredients in order to prolong shelf life, stabilize ingredients, and encourage your skin to absorb more of their product. 

I'm kind of grossed out to find out what truly is in my lotion.  Are you?  Well, there's good news.  Lonely Windmill Farm now sells handmade lotion!  We wanted to create a product that would not only moisturize your skin, but would also be void of all that other yucky stuff that isn't good for your skin.  We wanted a moisturizer that contained healthy oils, but that wasn't too greasy or messy.  We didn't want to add water, but we wanted it to be easy to use.  And so we created our body lotion sticks.  


Our body lotion sticks contain only good stuff: Beeswax, Olive Oil, Shea Butter, Mango Butter, Coconut Oil, and Vitamin E.  Olive Oil and Coconut Oil help moisturize, nourish, and regenerate your skin because they naturally contain vitamins and minerals your skin needs to thrive.  Mango Butter is helpful in reducing wrinkles, while Shea Butter is a natural sunscreen that also helps soothe irritated skin.  Beeswax prevents your skin from losing moisture and protects it from the drying effect caused by wind, sun, and water.  We use minimally processed and unrefined products in our lotion sticks to ensure that you get the most skin-nourishing vitamins as possible.  While we love the goat milk in our soap, we didn't add it to our lotion because that would force us to add some of the yucky preservatives I listed.  When we add milk to our soap, it undergoes a chemical reaction which changes the goat milk and preserves it.  But there's no chemical reaction in our lotion sticks, so we left it out because we felt the negatives of the preservatives outweighed the positives of the goat milk.



Since we don't add water to our lotions, they are hard, like a large lip balm.  We pour them into a twist-up tube, so all you have to do is rub it on your skin.  One thing I have always hated about lotions is how greasy my hands get when I applied it.  With our lotion sticks, I never have to touch the lotion (unless my hands need some TLC!)--I apply it, and then I don't have to wash my hands before doing something else.  Also, you can put it in your purse or a bag without worry about whether it will leak all over everything.  They come in four varieties: Simply Sweet, Oatmeal, Milk and Honey, Black Raspberry, and Natural (unscented).  We now have them available on our website.  If you love our soap, we have a feeling you'll love our lotion.  



For more info on common skincare ingredients, check out these two sites: 


Sunday, July 7, 2013

Is it July already?

We have had a busy spring and beginning of summer here at Lonely Windmill.  I want to show you some of the highlights!

At the end of February and beginning of March we had 7 does (female goats) give birth to 11 kids!  We (of course) had more bucklings than doelings.  We have since sold 9 of our kids (which was quite a traumatic experience for our human children), and kept our favorite two, Majesty and Aria.  Here's our little ones:

Majesty and Aria exploring the barn

Lincoln brought the goats to the house!

Waiting for bottles

Skipper and Gilligan (named by the boys who love Gilligan's Island)

Daddy and Lincoln feeding Annie who was about to kid for the first time

Bonnie...our smallest baby goat, so we brought her to the house to keep warm

The highlight of our spring though, was the birth of our fourth son, Deacon Park Morford, on April 8, at 7:03 am in a very peaceful birth in our home.  My labor stalled out around 3:00 am, and we ended up sending our midwife home.  She had just stepped into her door at her home in Indianapolis when we had to call her right back!  He was my biggest baby weighing 9 lbs 2 oz!  We're pretty excited to have 4 boys, and we think he's quite a keeper.  We're also so thankful for our wonderful midwife for helping us deliver three of our sons.  She does such a great job, and I've learned so much from her over the past 3 years.  Here's a few pictures of Deacon.

 Our fourth precious gift from God within a hour of his birth


Daddy letting Canaan meet Deacon for the first time

The Morford boys: Lincoln, Gideon, Deacon, and Canaan

Some other spring highlights:

  • Lincoln Gene turned 3!  So hard to believe that my first baby born at home is already 3 years old!  
Happy 3rd birthday, partner!

  • We got a new (to us) vehicle.  We've been needing something that would hold all of our children and all of our soap stuff when we go to a craft show, and also we've been needing a car isn't so old it might fall apart at any second.  We got a Ford Excursion, and despite the gas it uses, we still love it.  It's big and it's green, so I was thinking we'd call it "The Big Green."  Some people refer to it as "The Beast," others like "The Green Machine."  Hopefully soon we'll find an affectionate name we can all agree on, because every time we tell the kids to get in the van/car/truck, they kindly remind us that the 'scursion is none of those things.
  • We've been making lots and lots of soap in preparation for our craft show season.  Sometimes I feel like I eat, sleep, and breathe bath and body products!  At least it keeps my house smelling good.  :)

Greg working hard at making soap
  • Also, we recently started potty training Canaan.  He's yet to go on the potty, but whenever he wets his pants,  he says, "Woohoo!  Potty!"  I'll take that as progress.  
  • Lastly, we kicked off our craft show season last week at the Fisher's Freedom Festival in Fishers, Indiana.  It rained most of Saturday, but it was a really neat festival, and we enjoyed meeting new people there.  We're excited for the rest of our upcoming shows. In a couple of days, I'll be posting some of our new products that we've unveiled and tell you about some new soaps we're adding. 
Selling soap with Daddy!

The boys all dressed up to celebrate the Fourth!

Lincoln showing you his happy face over getting his face painted (I promise, he really did like it!)


Here's a quick list of the rest of the shows we'll be at this summer and fall:

Rushville Steam Show--Rushville, IN  August 1-4
Archway Days--Centerville, IN August 24-26
Canal Days--Cambridge City, IN September 7, 8
Preble County Pork Festival--Eaton, OH  September 21, 22
Riley Festival--Greenfield, IN October 3-6
YWCA Christmas Village--Richmond, IN November 8,9

We might add one or two more.  We'll keep you posted.


Well, I think that wraps up the spring pretty well.  We are pretty excited for the next coming months.  It's been awesome watching our family, goat herd, and business grow in the past few months.